Can Anybody Help Me With My Problem……..?
I need some advice …….we have taken about 50 mostly graduates from universities and
colleges on internship programme. Our specific office needed two. The problem is that
because Plett is very expensive, those from out of the town can’t get reasonably priced
rental accommodation……after much agonising I relented to the cries from one of the
interns……….she now stays at my flat…..the arrangement is that she should be out by
end of this month, but it doesn’t look that she would have got an alternative place come
end of the month …….I’m hesitant to allow her stay beyond the original agreement
On the other hand I could approach a colleague who has a spare room (he’s renting from
the employer, so there won’t be much problems to get permission to sub-let)……but now
this girl will need to buy bed, linen, pots, cutlery etc……I can help her with this…..but
my problem is that I don’t want her to believe that I don’t want her in my place……if I
can afford to assist her with these many things, why can’t I allow her – say – another
month so she can get a place and buy for herself…….I don’t want to create unnecessary
subtle tensions….what’s your advice
Ag shame, Zim. Why don’t you want the poor girl to stay? Is she ugly?
“tell her the truth”
Thats a tough one chief, but i dont think she should have any hard feelings as you have told her from the onset that she could only stay till the end of the month , its not like you sprung it upon her and she should have been making alternative arrangements, the best i feel is to speak to your mate about renting the room to her and maybe she can get an advance on her salary to purchase some of the essentials like a bed.Cutlery, linen, etc she can get from “home”
I think you did a very noble deed by giving her a place to live for a while and you shouldnt feel guilty about asking her to leave as this was the original agreement.
Another option is that since you say there since there are two interns , they could get a place together and share the costs.
Hello Zim$
I trust that you had a great Christmas and are having a good New Year.
I see you are still keeping this place alive.
Anyway.
Lets her sort out her own place you can’t hold her hand all the way she is obviously not a child.
Let her fend for herself she will learn a thing or 2.
Sounds to me like she already has another option now. Tell her that you are not kicking her out on the street because you don’t like her, but that you need your personal space and that you found her another place.
I can see your conscience is interfering with your original offer to this person. You offered her a place to stay on the proviso she sorts out her living place asap. She has either not done much about it (thinking that is is nice and comfy with you), or she might not have the necessary funds to move (as you say, bed etc.)
Seeing that she has not come up with an alternative up until now, it would be OK if you now present her with a good offer. And I do not think that she should accuse you of anything. You stuck to your offer, and convince her that the empty room is a very good choice. After all, you want to live your life. If you knew that you would be having her around for months on end, would you still have taken her in?
I think that you are offering this person a good arrangement. It might be that she is also wanting to be less dependent on others, and your friend´s place is a good solution. Just pose it to her, all she can say is yes or no. But by supplying her with bed etc, she would more than likely seize the opportunity of being more independent.
here’s the thing Zim – you employed this woman, that’s a business arrangement, if she can’t get her life together and find her own accommodation then perhaps she shouldn’t have taken a job away from home?
Why are you becoming so anxious about this – what do you own this woman other than a job and therefore a salary at the end of each month – my goodness keep you life simple kiddo !!!!!!
I agree with most of what others above are saying. you have done more than people would ordinarily do. she must find her place and begin to stand on her two feet. good luck…^^(((<>)))^^
I’m happy to hear that there are still people like you who like to help other people.
If you dint talk to her, she is going to assume that its ok if she stays longer, and will never make an effort to find her own place. You don’t even know how much rent she can afford. You have done a lot for her. She is a grown up woman , talking to her is the only solution.